Should You Count Days On NoFap?

Also read the article as the video and the blog post complement each other!

If you like the video, consider subscribing to my YouTube channel for more NoFap content.
You can do so by >>clicking this link right here<<

Counting days on NoFap, is it a good idea?

How about when doing a PMO reboot and you want to reboot your brain from years of fapping to porn, should you count days then?

Well, let’s take a look at it…

Should You Count Days On NoFap?

Let’s not make you skim the whole article and hold back the answer, I’ll just give it to you straight away:

Should you count days on NoFap?

Answer, you can count days on NoFap, but it depends on HOW you do it…

  • You can count days on NoFap if you only use the counter as a tool
  • If you get motivated by seeing the numbers go up day by day, it can be a good tool for you.
  • If you tend to binge and get stuck in relapses whenever you break your streak, it’s not really a good tool for you.
  • If you think that the number you see on your calendar means something special, in terms of healing, you are deluding yourself.

The Number On You Day Counter is Lying

Sure, you can use the number you see on your day counter as a somewhat good measure of your progress, and some things it represents are pretty accurate, like for example…

  • The testosterone spike on day 7
  • The upregulated androgen receptors after day 15
  • The sensitized addiction pathways growing even stronger in the second week

…etc, however, you must avoid the fallacy thinking that the number you see on your counter is set in stone – as far as your brain healing from PMO goes.

Your brain does not know what day it is…

Think about it…

There are many brain changes that happens when you develop an addiction to porn and some of those brain changes need longer time to heal than other…

…for example, the dopamine receptors in your reward circuitry does not care what number you are looking at when you see on your counter. It just does its healing, taking the time it needs.

It may perhaps need a period of 60-120 days to fully recover, while the sensitized pathways  just weaken over time and perhaps never disappear fully, even if you stop for life…

…they will always bee there in some way, which is why a person can relapse even after being clean for years.

There is NO way of knowing the “exact day” you are on…

So if you consider what I just wrote about the different parts of your brain needing their own time to heal, how could we possible be able to tell exactly where in our healing process we are, down to the exact day?

On top of that, every one of us have a unique brain and some guys heal faster than other…

…but the variables do not end there, they are almost endless…

  • When did you start using porn, at what age?
  • What kind did you use?
  • How much did you use?
  • How much brain changes did your porn use lead to, and what kind?

And then we also have to throw relapses into the mix…

  • What kind of a relapse was it? a 2 minute slip, or a 4 hour binge? (of course those two does not set you back the same amount of days)
  • How far in your healing process were you when the relapse happened? Was it on day 9 or on day 65? (the further along, the more the brain can take)
  • Did you relapse to masturbation or porn…or combining masturbating and porn?

..and so on, as you can see the variables are literally endless…

…so again, when taking all of this into account, how could you possible think that the number you are looking at when you see your day counter reflects the one and only truth about how far you have come in your healing process?

Still, a counter may not be a bad idea…

Now, that said, the counter may perhaps motivate you as you see the number increase day by day, and whenever you relapse you are motivated to go for a longer time and break your own record the next time…

…if so, then you are using the counter as a tool to help you, and that’s all well and good. Keep doing that.

However, for some people there is one big danger here…

Some people should not use a counter…

Some guys tend to get into “addict thinking” when they break a a streak.

Say you are on day 67 and you slip and peak at some porn for 5 minutes. Well, whether you reset your counter or not is up to you, but the last thing you wanna do in that situation is to go…

“Oh man I blew it! I’m back to zero so I might as well relapse some more before I start a new streak”

No no no no no!!!

That is the worst way to handle your slip.

Since we now seem to be talking about days here, then a 5 minute slip on day 67 would not put you back to zero. So you would have been much better of, just ignoring the relapse because the way you reacted now by starting to binge after your slip, well after THAT binge you are definitely back to zero.

How About Tracking Your Total Amount of Days Clean OR Your Total Amount of Relapses instead…

To avoid getting stuck in a relapse binge after a slip, you could instead try to count the total number of days you have been clean in one month. Or, the total number of relapses you’ve had in one month.

Then you would of course shoot for increasing to total number of clean days and try to break your own record that way.

Can you see how that is totally different from building a streak with the day counter?

Now, I’m not saying that this is a better way, but what I’m saying is that you have to find out what way works best for you. It depends on your personality type.

The Most Effective Way To Do It…
Just Be Someone Who Doesn’t Fap!

That subheading might sound silly and perhaps even a bit provocative, but it’s deeper than you think.

Look: The strongest force in the human personality is thee need to stay consistent with how we define ourselves!

Think of it this way, what day are you on when it comes to putting your clothes on?  Perhaps on day 13473?

The point I’m trying to drive home here is; of course you don’t count the number of days you are dressing yourself. That would be pointless because you just are not that kind of person who goes out in publik naked…

…well, I don’t know for sure, but at least I hope you’re not.

But you get my point. If you deep down to the core view yourself as someone who does not go out naked, then you just always dress yourself before you go out, and it would be very silly to count the number of days you do so.

Now, what if you could start viewing yourself the same way when it comes to fapping to porn?

What if you deep down to the core would view yourself as someone who spend time with real life girls instead of pixels on a screen, and that porn didn’t even exist for you?…

…if you truly could start viewing yourself that way, then you would just never masturbate to porn again and thus you would not feel any need  whatsoever to count the days.

This way, my NoFap brother, is the deepest and most effective way to stop fapping for good.

That said, it also takes a big mindset shift, and that can take some time to get the hang of…

…now, there are no right or wrong ways to stop fapping, so just because this last way may be the most effective ways, you certainly do not have to choose this way. After all…

…there are many roads that lead to freedom. The key is to get to know yourself, learn what works best for you and then…

…choose your road wisely!

Good luck brother!

-Scandinavian Bob-

P.S. Are you struggling? Click here to go to my contact page to discover what kind of help I’m currently offering.