NoFap When You Are Single (5 Things To Consider)

NoFap When You Are Single

Some people say NoFap is impossible to do when single.

Don't listen to those people. They are wrong!

In fact, being single when you start out on your NoFap journey can actually be a wonderful opportunity for you to fine tune your entire life.

Let's jump in and take a look at 5 things to consider if you are single, doing NoFap…

#1 Quitting porn and doing NoFap is not necessarily that much easier if you have a partner…

A lot of guys are complaining and saying things like “oh, if I only had a girlfriend, then I wouldn't need to fap to porn”.

You have to be a bit careful falling into the trap of thinking that way, because of two things…

  1. It's not entirely true. At least not for everyone.
  2. Even if there can be some truth found in it, that mindset will not help you.

Is NoFap easier for guys who have a partner?

Well, yes and no!

The guys who believe NoFap would be easier if they'd have a partner think something like, “if I would only have an outlet for my sexual desires, then the pressure wouldn't keep building and thus I wouldn't relapse”…

It's a logical assumption and, sure, for some it is true. But for the vast majority it's a cognitive error.

Here's the deal…

Most guys have developed at least some form of addiction related brain changes from years of fapping to porn. I.e. they are more or less addicted to porn. Those addiction related brain changes make the brain crave its dopamine fix. And here ejaculation plays little to no part – partner or not.

If addicted to porn, brain can still crave porn – even if you have a partner…

Keep in mind that many guys who are trying to do a PMO reboot with a girlfriend, still keep relapsing, almost as often as the single guys do. And some, even more often.

Is see this over and over again when someone reaches out to me for help through my 1 on 1 coaching.

If addicted, the brain thinks it needs those porn sessions – no matter if you release the sexual tension with a partner or not.

Watch your mindset…

So if you happen to be single and you're doing NoFap, watch your mindset, because finding excuses why things are hard will not make it easier for you…

…it will actually just make it harder.

Yes, it can become a self-fulfilling prophecy.

For some guys being single actually makes it easier…

Some guys even find being single makes NoFap easier. Especially if they are also taking a break from dating.

This can be because of several reasons…

  • They don't feel the pressure of having to perform sexually.
  • They don't worry about whether or not it's to soon for them to start ejaculating (if they are rebooting for sexual reasons, e.g. porn induced ED, etc.)
  • They get to focus solely on themselves, working on their goals, health, and general life situation.

So, don't make being single an excuse for not being able to do NoFap.

Instead, look at your NoFap journey as an opportunity to level up in life…

…which leads me to the next subheading…

#2 NoFap when single is an opportunity to level up in life…

If you just embarked on your NoFap journey, then why not look at this as an opportunity to improve, fix and modify your life?

A lot of guys feel pressured to be able to perform sexually with their wife or girlfriend. And many of them even wish that they'd have the luxury of having a specific period of time, carved out of their stressful lives, for self improvement.

If you're single, then you, my friend, have exactly such a period of time at your hands right now. And it's up to you what you decide to make of it.

So, embrace being single for now and start taking stock of your life….

  • Start putting things in order…
  • Work on your goals…
  • Get over your social anxiety…
  • Improve your social skills…
  • Improve your health…
  • Gain a few pounds of muscle…
  • Start a side business…
  • Change jobs…
  • Get more travel experiences…
  • Learn how to play a musical instrument…

Obviously, these were just examples, but you get my point.

You have an excellent opportunity to do great things right now, so get to it.

GRAB MY…

NoFap helps guys achieve their goals much faster…

It is indeed also the case that guys who practice NoFap and semen retention increase their energy and drive to such an extent that it really helps them reach their goals much faster.

This is especially true if they learn how to channel that energy properly.

Sure, if you only lie on the couch, watching Netflix, then the energy increase NoFap gives may perhaps only spill over in anxiety or increased anger and irritability….

…that kind of goes without saying, right?

So channel the energy and drive into improving your life as much as you can.

#3 Single guys who start doing NoFap often end up with a partner – before long!

Even if you've decided to focus on just being with yourself, working on your goals and improving your life, NoFap might very well make you end up with a girl friend sooner than you had planned for.

This is just the nature of NoFap.

NoFap makes you start appreciating girls in real life much more, as opposed to the pixel variants you previously been so found of. It increase both your attraction to them as well as their attraction towards you.

Naturally, this bidirectional increase in attraction will significantly increases the likelihood of romances…

…planned or not.

10 years of NoFap experiences have made me experiences this increase in attraction…

I have now personally been involved in the PMO rebooting community for 10 yea by now.

During those years, I have had many a relapses with all kinds of different streaks in between, and one thing has always struck especially interesting…

oftentimes, when riding on a really long and powerful streak, it made girls more interested in me. And even though I didn't plan for it, that sometimes made me end up with some kind of relationship.

Obviously, nowadays, I can control it if I want, but it just goes to show how powerful NoFap can be.

If interested in this whole attraction phenomenon, you can check out a two part  video series I created a while back. For your convenience I have embedded it below…

How NoFap can increase attraction…

PART  1

PART 2

I hope you found the videos informative.

For more interesting videos like that, check out my YouTube channel Project Stronger Self right here. I have A LOT of videos like that and I regularly keep posting more.

#4 Single guys who start doing NoFap start feeling more ‘grown up'

A lot of single guys who stop fapping to porn report that it wasn't until they started doing that, that they started feeling like a real, grounded man.

And by ‘real grounded man' I mean feeling like you have left the boy behind and taken the leap into fully being a ground up man.

This has a lot to do with self esteem -as NoFap is also known for boosting confidence and self esteem- but even more so because NoFap teaches you how to master the art of not falling for any and all instant gratification stuff.

Indeed, since NoFap isn't easy, it is one of the best and strictest teachers when it comes to you mastering the art of controlling your self…

…and with control, comes a feeling of being more mature.


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#5 Guys on NoFap may have to face their demons…

I don't want to give the impression that just as soon guys embark on a NoFap journey, everything will be sunshine and rainbows from there on out.

Sure, for the vast majority, NoFap really changes life for the better, but as with som many other things in life, it can get worse before it gets better. And in the beginning of their journey, the NoFap guys often have to face difficult things as well.

Like for example…

  • The NoFap flatline (a period of reduced libido and lov drive and motivation)...
  • Withdrawal symptoms
  • Repressed demons emerging, once the escape into porn is no longer an option…

It's important to understand that many guys have been using porn as a comping mechanism to escape from some of their deeper problems in life.

Problems like for example…

  • Social anxiety
  • longing for connection
  • Lack of purpose and meaning
  • Depression
  • Etc…

And the thing is, since porn is a powerful generator of dopamine on demand, it can actually do a pretty good job at masking problems in life.

Don't get me wrong, I said ‘masking', not ‘solving'.

It does nothing to solve your problems.

In fact, since porn tend to mess with your dopamine system, it often makes the problem worse. E.g. social anxiety can both lead to porn use, but then porn use also tend to worsen social anxiety.

No more escape – that is actually a good thing…

The point being, if a guys has been using porn as a comping mechanism, of course removing it may make him feel like crap for a period of time, as he no longer has anywhere to escape.

But, bad feelings or not, this is actually a good thing. He now has no other option than to face his problem head on.

And let me ask you, what way are problems best solved? Facing them or running away from them?

Yes, as hard as facing problems can be, I think we all know the answer to that one.

Warning: be wary of forming other addictions…

When quitting an addiction or a bad habit, that has been used as a coping mechanism, there can be a danger of forming another unhealthy way of masking your problems.

For example, some addicts tend to just trade one addiction for another, simply because of the fact that reality can be tough to handle, once the mask is gone.

Obviously, this is not helpful and it is definitely not the way forward, if you want to improve your life.

Brace yourself….

If you're new to NoFap, you have to brace yourself for a potential rough start of your journey.

Now, it doesn't mean it's guaranteed to be awful, but if you have been burying a lot of problems, it might. Tough as it may be, just know that once you start dealing with previously hidden problems, things will improve….

…also know that, no matter how bad things feel in the beginning, this is the right way forward for you.

And hey, if you haven't been using porn to mask a problem / problems, then your journey will still be worth it, and in your case then, we're  probably also talking about a heck of a smoother ride.

Thanks for reading!

-Scandinavian Bob-

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