NoFap Has Killed My Libido
So you have been doing NoFap and now your libido is gone, huh?
Well, believe it or not, you are not alone since this is actually a pretty common thing, but that does perhaps not make you feel that much better since you just want your libido back…
…or am I right?
Well don’t worry. In this article I’m going to share some helpful tips for you.
Yes, let’s jump in and talk about how to get libido back after NoFap…
NoFap Ruined My Libido – Good News: It is Actually NOT Ruined
If you have lost your libido when doing NoFap it can only men three things…
- You have entered a so called flatline.
- The withdrawals has caused you to become depressed and the depression lingers even though you are recovered (depression can cause a total loss of libido).
- Your libido has remained “sleeping” even if you have come out of the flatline and now you need to “kickstart” it again.
…or a combination of all of the above!
When guys stop fapping to online porn it is very common that they fall into, what the the NoFap / PMO rebooting community refer to as the “flatline”.
The flatline is a period of a total loss of libido where the guys still objectively can see that a woman is very attractive, but there is zero to very little physical respons. This period is also often accompanied by low mood, lack of motivation and a general feeling of “blah”. Believe it or not, but it is even common for the penis to shiver up and temporary become a bit smaller during this period.
Related post: NoFap Flatline – 7 surprising facts
NoFap did NOT cause the flatline…
The flatline only happens if a guy has developed addiction related brain changes to high speed internet porn and guess what…
…the flatline is a clear sign that porn has messed with your brain.
But NoFap killed my libido – because I still had a sex drive before starting NoFap…
Even though the flatline is caused by porn, for most guys the flatline starts AFTER the guy stops fapping to porn and this is why many guys mistakenly think NoFap was the thing that caused the drop in libido in the first place, but it does not mean that NoFap ruined your libido.
The complete drop of your drive simply means that your messed up brain is now taking a much needed “break” from all things sexual and…
…it is actually as sign of healing.
There was no such thing as a “flatline” prior to the invention of internet…
Ok, so how do we know this?
The flatline is a new phenomenon. It never happened to guys who stopped masturbating before there was such a thing as online pornography. Guys who enlisted in the army 30 years ago and had no “release” for several weeks just got hornier and hornier. All of them!
That’s just one example.
If your brain is healthy, abstinence and not fapping will only make you hornier…
Yes, before there was any internet we heard men report the same from similar situations, from all around the world, where they had to go for periods without sex or masturbating. No one lost their libido.
Most of them got horny like crazy and there is not a single report from anyone who lost their libido, or their ability to achieve an erection, just because they didn’t masturbate for a couple of weeks or months. However, after a few years of high speed internet on the market, guys started showing up with libido problems, one by one…
I think not, and neither does the brain studies made on internet porn use we can find on for example Gary Wilson site “Your brain on porn.”
Now some of you may say, ok fair enough, but how do I get my libido back, then?
Ok, let’s jump in and take a look at what you can do…
How To Get Libido Back After NoFap
First you have to be honest with yourself, did you use a lot of porn back when you where fapping?
This is important as your solution to regain your libido will be different depending on your masturbation history.
You did not use porn…
If the answer is no, then there is no way you are going through the flatline and your problem has to be either depression or low testosterone, or both, as they often go hand in hand. Depression often leads to lov testosterone levels and low testosterone levels can also lead to depression. There could also be some other, organic issues.
If you didn’t use porn then I highly recommend you talk with your doctor and have him test your testosterone levels and rule out any other potential, organic problems. You may also discuss depression with him, if you think that may be an issue.
- Make sure to do physical exercise several times a week.
This is good for both increasing testosterone, reducing symptoms of depression as well as increasing your libido.
- Spend a lot of time with good friends.
Studies have found that spending time with loved ones is very important if depressed and may help speed up your recovery.
- Eat a healthy diet to help boost your testosterone and reduce your depression.
Avoid junk food, sugar and alcohol since they all tank your hormone levels and can even cause inflammation of the brain. Eat a lot of grass fed beef, organic eggs, salmon, avocados and coconut oil as they will help your bodys own testosterone production.
- Have a gratitude journal to help with your depression.
Studies have shown that writing down things you are grateful for on a daily basis will help increase your mood and reduce symptoms of depression.
- Consider trying “AlphaViril” for boosting your testosterone.
AlphaViril is a natural testosterone and libido booster that I personally use and it actually works really well. You can read more about it further down on this page, or if interested, you can click here to check pricing at the online vendor.
You used porn, but in moderate amounts…
If this is the cause it is highly likely that your loss of libido is caused by the flatline. However, since you only used moderat amounts of porn, the addiction related brain changes is potentially not that severe, although they can still be, so you could be coming out of the flatline after a couple of months or so.
- Continue NoFap and continue staying away from porn.
- Rewire your brains sexual response by spending a lot of time around real life women (or men if you play on that team)
If you’re single, keep dating. Hugging, kissing and fooling around will all help, but even just being close to the opposite sex helps. For example dance classes are a great way for you to spend a lot of time close to girls.
- Exercise and be healthy.
- Be patient and keep going. You should be coming out of the flatline after about 2-6 months.
Although, for some people it takes much longer than that. We are all different and many factors are involved. It also depends on at what age you started fapping to porn. Guys who started at a very young age tend to take a longer to recover.
You used a lot of porn…
You have to accept the fact that it may take a very long time for you to recover, especially if you started fapping to porn at a very early age. This is something that Gary Wilson, the founder of the website yourbrainonporn, also often points out.
- Be patient and keep going. You should be coming out of the flatline after about 3-10 months, although it can take longer for some guys.
- For you rewiring is ESPECIALLY important.
If you started fapping to porn at very early age, you have conditioned your sexuality to only respond to pixels on a screen so for you rewiring is especially important. Spend as much time as possible around real life women / men.
- Find natural ways to boost your testosterone to help “wake up” your sleeping libido.
- Exercise and be healthy.
You Have Waited For a Long Time But Still No Drive…
You Need To ‘Kickstart’ Your Libido!
If you have been doing NoFap and staying off porn for a long time, and your libido is completely missing you should stop waiting because you are probably fully “rebooted”…
…so you should get yourself out there, start dating and try to have sex with real life women.
Even if fully rebooted, for some people the libido remains sleeping. No one knows the reason for this, but perhaps it just shuts down as the brain thinks you are not going to use it any longer.
Orgasm to kickstart sleeping libido…
Now, by this I do NOT mean that you should go back to porn, but your libido has remained sleeping and you may have to kickstart it by starting to have orgasms again. But again, NOT with porn…
…this is preferable done with a real life woman, but even masturbation to orgasm, without porn, can sometimes do the trick.
WARNING! Build up slowly…
Many guys have found that kickstarting their libido by having a a few orgasms help, but then become so happy about that that they started orgasming way too much, too soon, and as a result they got thrown back into the flatline again…
…so don’t do it like that.
If you have an orgasm, then monitor the results for a few days to see how you feel. If your libido does not wake up withing a few days, try another orgasm. If your libido then wakes up, great, just be careful now to not overdo it now. Even if you are happy about your newfound libido, if you have a partner or a girlfriend, don’t orgasm every times you have sex, but build up to it slowly. For example 1 orgasm per week for a couple of weeks and then perhaps try 1-2 orgasm per week after that, all while monitoring your progress…build up to them slowly.
Try the libido and testosterone booster AlphaViril…
In addition to doing the above steps, you may find the natural product AlphaViril helpful for ramping up your libido. I sure did after my own reboot a couple of years back. I tried pretty much every libido enhancer I could get my hands on, most of them completely useless, but I found two of them that actually worked really well for me and one of them was AlphaViril.
I found AlphaViril to….
- Increase my testosterone levels.
I have even confirmed this by taking blood tests, which I talk about in my AlphaViril review I made in another post a while back.
- Significantly increase my libido.
It even helped in the middle of my NoFap journey when I was not fully rebooted, but I mostly used it at the very end of my reboot and, as I was more healed by then, it really skyrocket my libido to levels I had never experienced before.
- Give me harder erections.
Alpha viril increase dopamine and testosterone, which are the two main drivers of libido, but it also increases nitric oxide, which is a vasodilator, meaning it relaxes the inner muscles of your blood vessels, causing them to widen. Especially in you nether regions.
- Make the tip of my penis more sensitive.
The sensation when having sex on AlphaViril is pretty amazing. It’s like I can feel this surge of horniness throughout my body and my penis becomes very sensitive. I have this amazing “tingly feeling” in my nether regions and it’s not an overstatement to say that it almost feels like I can feel my pulse, pulsating, in the tip of my penis.
If you want to watch a full video review about AlphaViril I made a while back,
you can take a look at the video below…
If interested, you can click here to check pricing over at the AlphaViril website.
I think AlphaViril is better than other libido boosters out there because it targets multiple areas of the sexual mechanism.
Not only does it raise testosterone, which is a key player in sex-drive, but it also raises dopamine as well as significantly increase nitric oxide. Dopamine is also, highly involved in powering libido and erections, and nitric oxide is a compound that opens up your blood by causing them to widen. This alone is superb for harder erections, but not only that…
…nitric oxide also promotes testosterone production, so the ingredients in AlphaViril really work synergistically to create a very potent effect.
Some Other Things You Can Do to Get Your Libido Back After NoFap
If you think that NoFap killed your libido, which we pretty much debunked in the beginning of this article as it most likely is caused by the flatline, here are a few other things for you to try.
All of these are also known to raise libido…
Cold showers also increase dopamine and for some people, myself included, they help stimulate the body’s own testosterone production. However, there is a catch; they have to be cold in order for it to work, you have to take them for at least 2-3 minutes and…
…yes, they are very unpleasant 🙁
However, even if they are unpleasant, it is indeed very possible to do them. I personally take at least a few cold showers a week and they make me feel great. If I run out of AlphaViril for a few weeks I make sure to increase the amount of cold showers I take in order to compensate, but even though they can be effective, they will not boost your libido and testosterone as much as AlphaViril…
…don’t get me wrong, colds showers are still worth doing though.
Heavy Strength Training…
Heavy deadlifts and squats are good for optimizing your testosterone production.
Squats are particularly good as they also work on your pelvic flor pretty effectively. This will keep your blood flow to your nether regions well functioning and the heavy load of the weights will ramp up your testosterone as long as you don’t overdo it. If you overtrain, however, it will actually backfire and cause you to produce LESS testosterone, so please keep that in mind.
High intensity interval Training…
If you like jogging, then incorporate a few sprints into your running sessions. This will both upregulate your dopamine system as well as increase your dopamine production. But here too you should be cautious to not overdo it as there is definitely a point of diminishing return. And not only that, a point where the increased load actually increase your stress hormones and lower your libido.
No Libido After NoFap Final Words
So can NoFap destroy your libido?
Answer: No! If your libido disappeared after after doing NoFap, or if your libido disappeared while doing NoFap, it is a sign that fapping to porn has caused addiction related brain changes.
Those brain changes while reverse while doing NoFap, but it can take a very long time and you have to be patient and keep going.
You may have to kickstart your libido, and if that’s the cause, don’t overdo it in the beginning as, even though that may get you out of the flatline, too many orgasms when starting your sex life again can know you back into a flatline…
…build them up slowly.
I hope you found this article helpful.
Stay strong and much love!
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F.A.Q’s About NoFap And Libido?
Q: I find my libido get’s out of control when I do NoFap? Is this normal? I get so horny that I have trouble concentrating.
A: Well, congratulations. It is normal. This is what men used to be like before there was any internet. Be happy about it since it means that you have no addiction related brain changes caused by porn. Perhaps you have never used porn, or perhaps you are one of those lucky guys who can still watch it in moderation, without negative consequences.
Q: I have been doing noFap for 3 months and noFap made me lose my libido. I lost my libido in the second month of nofap and I don’t know what to do.
A: Most likely NoFap didn’t cause you to lose your libido. Your brain is probably healing right now and just needs a bit more time to do so before your libido returns. Keep going, and if nothing happens after a few more months, try kickstarting your libido, like I talked about in this article.
Q: When does libido return after nofap?
A: It’s different for everyone so there is no way I can give you an exact answer. It depends on so many factors. You age, your porn history, how you consumed your porn (multiple tabs open at once etc.) and all of us also have different brains with dopamine systems that are affected in different ways. That said, take a look at the article NoFap how to know if you are in a flatline, since I give a few general guidelines over there.
Q: If I can’t get it up with masturbation alone, without porn, but I can still get a mediocre erection with porn, is that a 100% sure sign that porn is my problem?
A: It is highly likely that porn is your problem and that you are so desensitized that even porn don’t really do it for you any longer. However, it is not a 100% certainty. For example, depression causes low dopamine levels and dopamine drives libido and erections. Since porn temporarily increase your dopamine (even though it more often than not causes your dopamine system to become disrupted in the long run) it could be that your baseline dopamine levels, due to depression, are just low enough to be under what it takes for powering erections, and then when you fire up a porn site your dopamine levels raise above that point and so you can at least achieve a somewhat decent boner. But again, it is more likely that you have advanced porn induced ED and just need to do a reboot. In any case I would recommend you seeing a professional to rule out any other problems, and then also, of course, stay away from porn for good and spend as much as time as possible with real life people instead.
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