How To Stop Binging On NoFap
A common problem on a NoFap journey is that a slip easily turns into a relapse, and then a relapse easily turns into bingeing…
…and then you're stuck there, in the relapse cycle of hell.
Does this sound familiar to you?
Well, if it does, I recommend you bookmark this page so that you can come back to it over and over, because in this post I will be sharing valuable tips on how to stop binging on NoFap.
Don't turn a slip into a binge
What separates more successful NoFappers from the ones who keep getting stuck is that the successful guys do not let one relapse turn into a binging party.
Indeed, when you get to the point that when you happen to relapse once, but you'll leave it at that and quickly move on, it's a real sign of progress.
Now, this is easier said then done, of course, but here are a few tips that will help you look at a slip with the correct mindset…
1) Know that one relapse doesn't destroy all your progress…
A very common trap to fall into after a relapse is to think, “oh man, I blew it, my progress is lost” and so, it is like you are temporarily just giving up and give yourself permission to go all crazy.
Don't do that!
One single slip does not put you back to zero, not even if you've gone just 9 days or so. And especially not if you are riding on a longer streak, like say a 46 day streak.
However, if you start binging that day and the following days, then rest assured that you're now wiping out everything you've built up.
You have to realize that, yes, a relapse is bad, but you can easily make it a whole lot worse. When I personally run into some form of setbacks in my life I like to think of this quote by Dr Jordan B. Peterson…
“There's this idea that hell is a bottomless pit and that's because no matter how bad things get, some stupid son of a bitch like you can always figure out a way to make it a lot worse!” J.P.
And he's right…
…so don't make it worse!
2) Get back up right away…
A relapse sucks, but it actually doesn't put you back that far.
If you get right back up, in a few days it'll be like nothing happened.
Yeah, again, I know I know, it's easier said than done because after a relapse it's like all the air goes out of us and we tend to lose all our motivation.
In order to deal with that, we need to adapt a warrior mindset…
3) Shorten your time frame and adapt a warrior mindset…
After a nasty relapse you should get right back at it, but how do you do that if you lost all motivation?
The solution is to shorten your time frame and to adapt a warrior mindset.
It's all in your head.
The right mindset is what makes or breaks you!
To discover something fascinating take a look at this video I made a while back. A video about getting out of NoFap binges.
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Go against your intuition!
Everyone loses motivation after a relapse and then suddenly doing good things like, meditating, going for a run or taking a cold shower feels completely pointless.
It's like they suddenly don't matter at all.
Your intuition will instead be to feel sorry for yourself and indulge in some other low value dopamine activities e.g. eat junk food or go to the store and buy a six pack of beer. Indeed, every cell in your body is screaming for a a self pity party!
Again, think of the bottomless pit. Don't do that. You will only make it worse.
Here's the solution…
Immediately after a relapse: do something that brings you a bit close to your long term goal…
No matter how pointless it feels, immediately after a relapse you need to force yourself to instantly do something good that go in line with your desired identity. Or your long term goal.
Please don't take this tip lightly as it is crucial for not falling into a 3 day binging fest…
By immediately doing something good, and I'm talking within the very first hour after a relapse, it will make you feel so much better and it will help you gain momentum again. That momentum is something you can then use as a barrier between you and the binges.
Within the very first hour of that nasty relapse, instantly…
- Write a blog post (if you're trying to build a blog)
- Take a cold shower (if this is something you normally do when riding on a good streak)
- Make a YouTube video (if you're trying to build an online presence)
- Go for a run (if your desired identity is to be a healthy person)
The point is to do something right away that goes well in line with your desired future.
I can't stress how important this is.
In fact, I seriously think that learning how to go against my intuition and instantly do something good was perhaps the biggest reason for why I personally learned how to stop binging on my own NoFap journey.
Reduce your internet and phone use as much as possible for the first couple of weeks after a nasty NoFap binge…
If you know that you're at risk for binging after a relapse, then you should do almost everything it takes in order to get the ball rolling again.
Drastically limit your internet and phone use for the first few days to help you get that momentum back. Preferably two or three weeks, and if need be, even longer than that.
Constantly having access to the internet is like an alcoholic walking around with a bottle in his pocket…
You absolutely can not continue your aimless browsing sessions in the late hours of your day when you're vulnerable to binging, like you apparently are if you're reading this article.
If you're a porn addict and you have instant access to all kinds of porn, just 3 seconds away, which you have if you constantly have your phone with you, then it's like an alcoholic trying to quit drinking while walking around with a bottle of vodka in his back pocket.
How do you think that will work out for him?…
…hint, not good!
You have to limit your internet and phone use. Especially at night and in the late evenings when you're tired and your willpower and self control is weaker…
…there's just no way of getting around this!
Now, if you freak out about this, keep in mind that most guys will not have to limit internet browsing and their phone use forever (although, some do). But you will most likely just have to do it until you get out of the binging hellhole and gain some momentum again.
Once the ball is rolling, everything becomes easier…
About one month in, cravings won't affect you as much. They become less frequent, less powerful and it's safe to say that, in general, rebooting becomes much easier once you have passed the 30 day mark.
Set goals outside of NoFap…
If your only goal right now is to quit fapping to porn, then you are setting yourself up for failure.
So, what do I mean?
Sure, you should do whatever it takes to overcome your addiction, but only building a life on something that you are trying to move away from is mentally destructive and will make you weak and vulnerable in the long run.
This is why you also need to have some other ‘positive' goals that you keep moving towards.
Now, it doesn't matter if you don't find anything that makes you jump up and down with excitement, just choose something that if you were to achieve, would make your life a bit better. And then, keep working on it every single day.
This will help you more than you think because then you'll be able to use that extra energy you get from not fapping your brains out and direct it at something you are creating. You can see how guys are doing this, over and over again, in the success stories one can find on for example YourBrainOnPorn
The above tips should be helpful when you're trying to get out of your bingeing cycle.
However, if you need more than this, then I highly recommend you check out an online course for quitting porn, and bad masturbation habits, called Dopamine Discipline.
I talk about it in the video below…
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I highly recommend that course since I've been checking it out very meticulously and I'm very impressed with what I've seen.
You may perhaps have heard me mention this course in my videos on YouTube, as I talk about it from time time over there.
How To Stop NoFap Binges
I hope you found the article helpful.
Remember, you really have to do whatever it takes to break the relapse cycle and to get the ball rolling again. I know it can seem like an almost impossible task when you're down at the bottom, but trust me, it can be done…
…and once you've gained a bit of momentum, everything becomes so much easier.
You can do this!
P.S. Need my help with rebooting? If so, find my contact page right here.