Does Fapping Make You Socially Awkward?
The NoFap community is growing rapidly and is now consisting of men from all over the world with all kinds of ethnical and social backgrounds.
Some are religious, some are atheists and some don’t even want to put themselves in any category, but they all have one thing in common…
..they try to avoid fapping.
Now, while they all have NoFap in common, the goals varies from person to person.
Some do it to get more energy, others to unhook from porn in order to get a healthier libido for real life women, while others do it to get less socially awkward.
Does fapping make you socially awkward?
Yes, fapping can make you socially awkward, but it’s important to note that it depends on the individual and what your fapping sessions look like and that it’s not so much fapping in and of itself, as it mostly happens if online adult sites are involved. It’s also important to note that not every guy who are a heavy user of adult content become socially awkward, far from it, but it does happen.
Is this a common thing?
How many guys become socially awkward by fapping?
I did a poll on my YouTube channel, Project Stronger Self, to find out what my subscribers think about this.
By the way, you can click here to take a look at my YouTube channel, if interested.
Out of 2275 guys, here are the votes…
- Fapping makes me more socially awkward: 75%
- Fapping does not make me more socially awkward: 6%
- I have never felt socially awkward, fapping or not: 7%
- I always feel socially awkward, even on NoFap: 11%
Note that most of my subscribers are doing NoFap so if you where to do this very same poll on the “average population” the result would probably not look the same.
How Can Fapping Make You Socially Awkward?
So what’s going on here, how can fapping make you socially awkward?
Well, there are a couple reasons behind this…
…both biological reasons and psychological reasons.
Let’s start with the psychological reasons…
The psychological reasons…
Let me ask you this, would you be okay with having your relatives see your search history on your computer?
Most would not and that’s understandable!
Privacy is of big importance, but just exactly how embarrassed would you be if everything you searched for the last two months were somehow displayed on a big 500 inch screen in the middle of your home town?
If the thought of that scares the living crap out of you then be glad that this was just an example where I painted a mental picture for you, but do you have any idea why I did it?
Well, I did it tro drive home the point that some people develop social anxiety by distorting the part of the brain that is responsible for monitoring how and in what place we fall in the social game.
You can distort that part of your brain by….
- Lying about something that is deeply connected to your ego.
- Hiding something about yourself.
- Trying to avoid some personal quirks to surface.
- Hiding some acts that you repeatedly do (like for example fapping to weird porn categories)
By doing any of those you are feeding the part of the brain that is responsible for making you feel shame and socially anxious.
Now, granted, this doesn’t happen to everyone, but it does happen to some.
I talk more about this in the video below.
Please take a look at it right now to discover exactly how fapping can make you socially awkward both from a psychological and a biological point of view.
If you found the video informative, you can click here to check out my YouTube channel.
Ok, and so what about the biological reasons, then?
The biological reasons for why fapping can make you socially awkward…
One of the most common benefits guys report when going on a NoFap journey is reduced social anxiety. Related post: NoFap and social anxiety
This is because overconsumption of today’s super stimulating adult sites causes a disrupted dopamine system in your brain. The adult sites are just too stimulating for your reward system and as a result your brain starts reducing its number of dopamine receptors.
A disrupted dopamine system has been linked to the following symptoms…
- Low motivation and drive.
- Feelings of fear and shame.
- Depression / anhedonia.
- Poor concentration and inability to focus.
There are more, less common symptoms, but those are very common.
Now, if you combine feelings of fear and shame with an inability to focus properly you get a pretty good recipe for social awkwardness.
Well, just think about it…
The anxiety and feelings of shame makes you very self conscious and if you then, on top of that, have problems focusing on the actual conversation you can quickly start looking pretty socially awkward.
Luckily, many guys start seeing a reduction in social anxiety somewhere around day 30-90 of NoFap and some experience improvements even before going a full month.
It’s easier to talk to women when you are doing NoFap
So now that we understand that a disrupted dopamine system can cause social anxiety and that constantly doing actions that we feel we need to hide, i.e. closing the curtains when fapping our brain out and the making sure to delete our search history, can really play a number of the brain, there is one more thing we need to talk about…
…NoFap and deeper connection to others.
When you quit porn you get a deeper connection to people
When you stop feeding your brain with all kinds of weird porn clips a number of positive things happens.
One of them is that you will notice how you start paying way more attention to the fact that you are actually interacting with real person and not just body parts.
Body parts which you used to rate “hot” or “less hot” and perhaps pathetically picture your big “sticky load” landing on.
In the midst of a porn addiction then obviously all those scenes are going to be spinning round and round in your head as soon as you’re talking to an attractive woman…
…or even people in general.
Do you think that might add to your social awkwardness, yes or no?
Well, perhaps not for everyone, but for a number of men it sure as heck does.
Yes, indeed when staring NoFap you will start noticing how the girl actually has thoughts, emotions, and a whole life behind her and there is a whole other dimension there that goes deeper than you’ve ever imagined.
If you quit fapping girls get more attracted to you
Another common benefit you can find NoFap guys talking about is increased attention from the opposite sex.
Not just increased attention, but thousand and thousands of guys swear that girls seem to be much more attracted to them whenever they are riding on a good NoFap streak.
This benefit is actually one of the most mysterious benefits and can be a bit hard to explain. But the fact that you are able to connect on a deeper level with the girls, like I just mentioned, could indeed be one plausible reason for this.
…but there might be more going. Biological, psychological and perhaps even metaphysical reasons, all combined?
Who the heck knows, but the fact is that thousands of guys claim that women get way more attracted to them when they stop wasting their “man juice” into some Kleenex in front of their beloved laptop.
I have tried to give my own explanations to this in the article Does NoFap make you more attractive? and if this is something you’re interested in, you might want to read that article.
Does Fapping Make You Socially Awkward?
So to sum everything up…
Fapping does not make everyone socially awkward, but it is safe to say that it does indeed make many guys both more uncomfortable in social situations as well as more socially awkward.
There are several reasons for this, but psychological reasons like shame and porn induced social anxiety are the two big ones.
I hope you found the article informative.
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Thanks for reading!