Can I Have Cheat Days On NoFap?
So you're trying to do NoFap and you are finding it a bit hard, huh?
You're interested in the potential benefits, but perhaps you are not yet fully committed.
Your dabbling in and out a bit, not fully wanting to give up your old habits, and now with a somewhat desperate voice you're asking…
…”can I have have cheat days on NoFap?”
The short answer is, if you are looking at NoFap as a way to purely harness the power of semen retention, then sure, nothing wrong with having a “cheat day” every now and then. But if you, like most men, are doing NoFap to overcome your addiction to dirty websites or to change your life, then the answer is a resounding “NO!”.
A cheat day on NoFap?
Let's first define “cheating”
Before we get any further, let's first define “chating”.
By cheating I'm now talking about you fapping and busting a nut to porn.
Simple as that.
It depends on your goals…
Most men who try to live a NoFap lifestyle do so because they don't like their old habit of wasting all their life force into a napkin in front of the laptop. A habit of looking at the screen, seeing other men being sexual with women they themselves never even would dare to approach.
Are you living on the wrong side of the screen?
Like Jordan Petersons says, “that really says something about, either your courage or desirability as man. It's pretty hard to shake that, isn't it?”
Indeed most guys who watch porn feel like the are living on the wrong side of the screen. And this is even true for guys who wouldn't consider themselves pron addicts.
This is not good for your mental well-being.
And if you have developed real addiction related brain changes, it's even worse.
If you think you might be addicted – NEVER cheat!
If you think you might be addicted to porn, then commit to yourself to never cheat and look at porn again.
It's just not sustainable.
Well, because every time you do so, you are feeding the addiction, keeping it strong and alive. You are also, on a subconscious level telling yourself that it is “okay to give in” and go back to your good old porn when things are hard or when you really feel like it.
That's no way of overcoming an addiction, it's no way of overcoming a bad habit and it's no way of changing your life.
If you want a new life, then stop running the old software in your life's computer.
How do I know if I'm addicted?
If you're unsure of whether or not you could be classified as “addicted”, then I recommend you take a couple of minutes and take this porn addiction test right here.
If the answer turns out to be “negative” as in you're not addicted, that's great, but perhaps you should still consider giving up the porn.
If you have a hard time staying away from relapses then take a look at the article How to stop relapsing on NoFap
Even if not addicted – NoFap – without cheat days – can help you
Here are the reasons for why NoFap could still benefit you.
- You're obviously looking at porn because you would like to be intimate with someone you find sexually attractive. Well, did you know that NoFap makes it easier to get a girlfriend?
Related post: NoFap and magnetic attraction (myth or reality).
- Even if not addicted at this moment, keep looking at porn at you might become addicted.
And once you are, it's very hard to quit.
- Even if not addicted, consuming a lot of porn can still knock out some of your dopamine receptors. This is because today's porn is what biologists call a “superstimuli”.
A supernormal stimuli is something that is more stimulating for your brains reward system than you could ever find in nature. And with fewer dopamine receptors, you have a disrupted dopamine system.
- NoFap and semen retention in and of itself can give you both interesting and remarkable benefits.
See example of benefits further down…
What does “disrupted dopamine system” mean?
Dopamine has to attach to small receptors in order for it to do its magic. If you frequently blast your dopamine system with super stimulating porn, the brain will start to know out some of those small receptors.
And if you have fewer of those small receptors, your brain can't utilize all the dopamine. It is like having an engine that doesn't run on all cylinders.
Another way to put this is that you have a “numb pleasure response” or that you are “desensitized” or…
…you have a disrupted dopamine system.
This in turn can play out as some, or several of the following…
- You may experience less drive and motivation.
- You may experience less “go get it attitude”.
- You may experience more anxiety, shame and fear.
- You may have a harder time to find small things in life enjoyable.
- You may experience lack of confidence and being more “insecure” in general.
- You may experience difficulties with concentration and focus and even have problems with short term memory.
Yes, indeed, dopamine is involved in all of these and you really want your dopamine system to be functioning properly in order to get the most out of life.
Now, sure, it's still possible to achieve things in life, even if we're somewhat desensitized, but everything becomes so much easier when you have the biggest biological currency on your side…
The remarkable effects of NoFap and semen retention…
If we then flip the coin and instead list what the most common benefits guys who do Nofap / semen retention see, you can quickly see that it's almost the opposite of the above bullet points.
The most common benefits guys who do NoFap see are…
- Increased energy.
- More drive and motivation.
- Significantly increased confidence and giving less of a f*ck what others think of them.
- Better concentration and focus.
- More attraction to real life people.
- More attraction FROM real life people – especially the opposite sex.
- Needing less sleep.
- Harder erections.
- Easier to build muscle.
- Less procrastination.
Sound almost too good to be true, right?
Well, I assure you, some guys experience almost all those benefits.
Now, It varies from individual to individual, some guys notice only mild benefits, others very strong benefits and some notice only one or two benefits, other a whole bunch of them…
…but almost every single guy report that their life improved drastically since they've embarked on their NoFap journey.
NoFap cheat days
Conclusion and final words
I usually write a longer summary of my post that I'm about to do right now, because this one is just so straight forward…
…if you by “cheat days” mean days where you allow yourself to fap to porn again, then do yourself a favor and skip them…
Because they really won't serve you at all.
Thanks for reading,
P.S. If you need my help to stop relapsing, you can find my contact page right here.