Being Emotional On NoFap
A lot of guys are going on a NoFap journey because they want to become tougher, manlier and feel more “alpha”.
So off they go, walking on the NoFap journey for a few weeks, while eagerly waiting for the “alphaness” to descend on them…
…only to find that they instead become much more emotional.
Isn't NoFap supposed to give you the following benefits?
- Increased confidence?
- More self-esteem?
- An attitude of giving less of a f*ck what other s think of them?
- More energy, drive and “go get it attitude”?
So, what's going on here? Why do some guys become more emotional instead?
Well, many guys still experience all those listed benefits, and even more than those…
….but here's what's going on with the emotions on NoFap…
You actually become more stable on NoFap
But your emotions amplify (in the end)
You see what happens is that during the first 1-3 months of quitting porn, your emotions will most likely be on a roller coaster ride.
You will most likely have sharp fluctuations ranging all the way from euphoria, anxiety to crying spells and everything in between.
NoFap will definitely do something to your emotions – and this is the process:
For most guys the process looks like this…
- During the first 1-3 months your emotions may go all haywire because of withdrawals and brain changes returning to normal.
- Once the withdrawals calm down you reach a more stable state with more emotional control.
- After doing NoFap for some time you are left with a capability to feel deeper and stronger emotions, both positive ones and negative ones (this is a good thing).
NoFap will “fine-tune your brain”…
If you for example experience things like sudden crying spells or random anxiety, during the first few months of your rebooting, know that those seemingly random emotional spells will most likely reduce with time.
Porn blunts your emotions…
But since porn tends to numb our pleasure response, giving it up is like fine tuning your brain, making all your senses sharper. This also means that you will be able to experience emotions more intensely.
So, in the end it will stabilize, but on the other hand you will be able to experience emotions more vividly, with more intensity.
Being able to experience that child-like happiness again…
This is a good thing because who wouldn't want to feel things like; child like happiness again, or massive excitement before going on an adventure of some sort, or intense horniness when rolling around in the bed with your loved one…
…but you should also be prepared for things like being able to feel immense satisfaction just by seeing a beautiful sunset or perhaps shed a tear or two when watching a really sad movie.
In other words: after a full reboot your emotions will be deeper and more intense.
This is a good thing because, well, emotions are your life.
Think about that for a while!
What some of my subscribers say about emotions during NoFap…
I made a poll on my YouTube channel, called Project Stronger Self, where I asked my subscriber what their experiences are with NoFap and more intense emotions.
Here are the results…
Do you find that NoFap has made you experience more intense emotions?
As you can see, about 1000 people participated and the results are…
- No, not at all: 8%
- Yes, it has: 65%
- I don't know: 27%
So, a clear majority see more intense and deeper emotions when on NoFap.
Perhaps a better way to put it would be; a majority of people start to experience more vivid and more intense emotions after giving up porn.
The results from the poll is very much in line with I have seen on all the rebooting forums during my, now 10 years, of being part of the pmo rebooting community…
…sharper senses and being capable of experiencing more intense emotions is indeed what I saw myself as well, after I successfully managed to quit porn some years ago.
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Here are som interesting comments from the guys…
Let's take a closer look at what some of the guys have to say about NoFap and emotions.
As you can see, some notice stronger emotions in general and some of them are clearly struggling with withdrawals as the negative emotions seem to be particularly intense…
“I've had streaks where literally looking at trees made me cry. Its amazing.”
-BUff Music Fan 25-
“Ouf, WITHOUT A DOUBT….
For me I think it leans more on the stronger positive emotions in general. Negative emotions are there, they hurt but they usually are less crushing than before.”
“The cloudiest gloomy day becomes the most beautiful day , around day 20-30 of nofap”
– the black sheep-
“I feel overwhelming negative emotions, but I guess its part of the process 🤷🏼♂️ I would never consider relapsing”
“100% that's partly why I usually end up relapsing”
“I feel so aggressive and angry when I practice nofap. I also experience anxiety and depression far less though. Worth the trade for me personally.”
The flatline can make you emotionally numb
Many guys who are doing NoFap will have to power through something called the flatline.
Now, if you're not familiar with what the NoFap flatline is, then read the article NoFap Flatline – 7 Surprising Facts.
The flatline is basically a period of time when the guys feel a total drop in libido (often to the point of not even having any desireto use porn) and where the genitals feels cold and lifeless….
…but the total lack of libido is not the only thing that characterizes the flatline.
Here are some other things that are typical to experience during a flatline…
- Low energy and drive.
- Feeling numb and like nothing really matters.
- A void like feeling or “emptiness” in the chest.
As you can see, all pretty grey and depressing things.
This “void-like state” often starts somewhere in the second or third week and can last a couple of weeks. However, everyone is different as some will have to power through for several months.
Then there are also a lucky few who doesn't face a flatline or a void-like state at all…
…I know, there's nothing fair about life.
But basically, it is indeed possible to also feel totally dead, emotionally, if you're going through the void-phase.
Related post: NoFap first 3 days – the void hits a few days later…
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NoFap and emotions
So to sum it all up, during the first couple of months of NoFap, your emotions can go completely crazy from all the withdrawals, or they can become very dark and empty-like because of the flatline.
If you manage to push through, however, they will most likely stabilize.
After a few months after having left porn behind for good, you are left with fresh, sharp senses and a full range on the emotional spectrum, where you are capable of feeling deeper and more intense emotions… just like a healthy brain should be able to do.
Imagine being able to experience that child-like excitement for life again!
Well, keep walking on the amazing reboot path and before you know it, you'll be there.
Thanks for reading!
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